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{{Short description|American insurance salesman and founder of the IAPY (1931–2011)}}
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{{Infobox person
| name = Harold P. Wexley
| birth_name = Harold Prentiss Wexley
| birth_date = June 2, 1931
| birth_place = Sandusky, Ohio, U.S.
| death_date = November 9, 2011 (aged 80)
| death_place = Fort Wayne, Indiana, U.S.
| nationality = American
| other_names = "Harry"; "The Founder"; "Mr. Wexley, please"
| education = Sandusky High School (1949)
| alma_mater = Toledo Commercial College (attended)
| occupation = Insurance salesman, association executive, author
| years_active = 1951–2011
| title = President of the [[International Association of Professional Yappers]] (1958–1993); Founder-for-Life (1993–2011)
| known_for = Founding the [[International Association of Professional Yappers]]
| notable_works = ''Never Stop: A Life in Words'' (1979)
| spouse = {{Plainlist|
* Mildred Haverkamp (m. 1955; died 2004)
}}
| children = 3
| awards = Golden Larynx (honorary, 1972); Ohio Insurance Underwriters' Persistence Award (1964)
}}
'''Harold Prentiss Wexley''' (June 2, 1931 – November 9, 2011) was an American insurance salesman and association executive who founded the [[International Association of Professional Yappers]] (IAPY) in 1958. He served as its president for 35 years and as its Founder-for-Life from 1993 until his death. Wexley is credited with establishing yapping as an organized professional activity in the United States, and with devising many of the conventions of the association's annual [[Yap-Off]] championship.<ref name="hollis2014">{{Cite book |last=Hollis |first=Margery |title=Words Without End: A History of Organized Talking in America |publisher=Plainview University Press |location=Ames, Iowa |year=2014 |isbn=978-0-00-118402-7 |page=31}}</ref>

Born in Sandusky, Ohio, Wexley worked for the Lake Erie Mutual Assurance Company for 22 years, during which he was reportedly the firm's top-selling agent by number of household visits and its lowest by number of completed sales.<ref name="wexley1979">{{Cite book |last=Wexley |first=Harold P. |title=Never Stop: A Life in Words |publisher=Brannock & Sons |location=Toledo |year=1979 |isbn=978-0-00-201955-4 |page=212}}</ref> His 1,112-page memoir, ''Never Stop: A Life in Words'' (1979), is regarded by the IAPY as a foundational text and by its publisher as "the reason we no longer accept manuscripts by post".<ref name="brannock">{{Cite news |last=Teague |first=Lowell |title=Small Toledo publisher marks a century |work=The Maumee Valley Courier-Ledger |date=April 2, 1998 |page=D3}}</ref>

== Early life ==
Wexley was born on June 2, 1931, in Sandusky, Ohio, the second of four children of Prentiss Wexley, a ferry ticket clerk, and Agnes (née Dollinger) Wexley, a church organist. In ''Never Stop'', he described his family as "quiet people, which I took as a challenge".<ref name="wexley1979" /> A report card from Sandusky's Hancock Street Elementary School, reproduced in the memoir, describes the eight-year-old Wexley as "a bright boy who would benefit from occasionally finishing".<ref name="wexley1979" />

At Sandusky High School he was a member of the debate team for one season, leaving in 1947 after a dispute over time limits. The team's coach, Leland Vogt, later recalled that Wexley "had no interest in winning arguments, only in continuing them".<ref name="hollis2014" /> He graduated in 1949 and briefly attended Toledo Commercial College, where he studied bookkeeping for three semesters before taking a job selling home and life insurance door to door.

== Insurance career ==
Wexley joined the Lake Erie Mutual Assurance Company in 1951. Company records cited by Hollis show that he made an average of 4.1 household visits per day, against a company average of 11.6, owing to the length of each visit.<ref name="hollis2014" /> A 1956 internal memorandum noted that "Mr. Wexley's clients often purchase a policy simply in order to bring the visit to a close", and recommended that his methods be studied. A training film based on his technique, ''The Patient Approach'' (1959), was withdrawn after one screening because its running time exceeded the length of the sales seminar.<ref name="ledger1990">{{Cite news |last=Brandauer |first=Celia |title=The man who talked Ohio into buying insurance |work=The Maumee Valley Courier-Ledger |date=June 3, 1990 |page=E1}}</ref>

In 1964 the Ohio Insurance Underwriters' Association presented Wexley with its Persistence Award. His acceptance speech, delivered at the association's banquet in Cleveland, is recorded in the banquet programme as scheduled for five minutes and in the hotel's billing records as having required an additional night's room hire.<ref name="wexley1979" />

== Founding of the IAPY ==
{{Main|International Association of Professional Yappers}}
In 1957 Wexley was asked to leave a regional insurance convention in Columbus, Ohio, after speaking through the closing session, a fire drill and the departure of the remaining delegates. He later wrote that the experience was "the loneliest and most clarifying night of my life".<ref name="wexley1979" /> The following spring, he placed a classified advertisement in a Toledo newspaper reading "Do you find that people leave? You are not alone. Meet others. Kessler's Diner, Friday, 6 p.m. Stay as long as you like."<ref name="hollis2014" />

The meeting, on March 14, 1958, was attended by seven people and is regarded as the founding of the Toledo Conversational Endurance Society, renamed the International Association of Professional Yappers in 1961. Wexley was elected president by acclamation, which a fellow founding member, Dorothy Szymanski, later attributed to "nobody else being able to get a word in".<ref name="szymanski">{{Cite news |last=Strand |first=Phyllis |title=Thirty years of talking, and they're not done yet |work=The Maumee Valley Courier-Ledger |date=March 14, 1988 |page=C1}}</ref>

As president, Wexley drafted the association's first constitution, established the Yap-Off in 1962, and personally conducted admission monologues for every new member until 1969, when the backlog reached 1,400 applicants. He resigned from Lake Erie Mutual in 1973 to lead the IAPY full time. During his presidency, membership grew from seven to approximately 22,000.<ref name="annual1993">{{Cite web |title=President's Valedictory Report, 1993 |website=IAPY.example.org |publisher=International Association of Professional Yappers |date=1993 |access-date=October 12, 2026 |url=https://example.org/iapy/archive/1993-valedictory}}</ref>

Wexley's leadership was not uncontested. During the Brevity Heresy of 1974, he spoke against Arthur Pemble's motion for 19 consecutive hours, a contribution that historians of the association regard as both decisive and the main reason Pemble's supporters left.<ref name="hollis2014" /> In the 1999–2008 "Podcast Question", he argued that recorded yapping "lacks a victim in the room", a phrase that became a rallying cry for traditionalists.<ref name="wexley2001">{{Cite news |last=Wexley |first=Harold P. |title=Founder's column: On the matter of the tape recorder |work=Yapper's Digest |date=Spring 2001 |page=4}}</ref>

== Personal life ==
Wexley married Mildred Haverkamp, a Toledo bank teller, on September 17, 1955. According to family accounts, the couple met when Wexley attempted to sell her an insurance policy at her teller's window, and the bank closed for the day before he had finished.<ref name="ledger1990" /> Mildred Wexley was known within the association for communicating largely by notepad; she described the arrangement in a 1983 interview as "efficient, given the circumstances".<ref name="mildred1983">{{Cite news |last=Okafor |first=Beatrice |title=The woman behind the man behind the talking |work=The Fort Wayne Evening Sentinel-Bugle |date=February 14, 1983 |page=C4}}</ref> The couple had three children: Russell (born 1957), Joan (born 1960) and Peter (born 1963). Joan Wexley-Marsh later served on the IAPY Ethics Committee; Peter Wexley is a member of the [[Concise Yappers Guild]], a fact the family has described as "a private matter".<ref name="obit2011">{{Cite news |last=Garrity |first=Neil |title=Harold P. Wexley, founder of yapping association, 80 |work=The Fort Wayne Evening Sentinel-Bugle |date=November 11, 2011 |page=B6}}</ref>

=== Public life and broadcasting ===
From 1966 to 1978 Wexley hosted ''Harold Wexley Has a Few Thoughts'', a Sunday afternoon programme on a Toledo AM radio station. The programme was scheduled for 30 minutes and regularly overran into the following farm-prices bulletin; station logs cited by Hollis show that it was cut off by the transmitter engineer on 214 of its 611 broadcasts.<ref name="hollis2014" /> The programme accepted listener calls, though Wexley's producer, Arnold Feeney, later said that no caller was known to have been put on air "in the sense of actually being heard".<ref name="ledger1990" />

In 1976 Wexley stood as an independent candidate for the Lucas County Board of Commissioners. He finished third of four candidates with 11.2% of the vote. His campaign's only televised advertisement was a single unedited take lasting 14 minutes, which the station broadcast once, after midnight, at a reduced rate.<ref name="ledger1990" /> He did not seek office again, writing that "the electorate prefers a man who can be finished with".<ref name="wexley1979" />

Wexley was a Lutheran and a lifelong member of the Sandusky Rotary Club, from which he received a commendation in 1981 for "service above self, and above the allotted time". He enjoyed bowling, citing its "generous pauses between frames".<ref name="wexley1979" />

== Later life and death ==
After stepping down as president in 1993, Wexley was named Founder-for-Life, an honorary post that he interpreted as permitting him to address any IAPY committee without prior notice. He continued to write a quarterly column for ''Yapper's Digest'' until 2010; his columns averaged 9,400 words, against an editorial limit of 800.<ref name="digest2010">{{Cite news |last=Quist |first=Barnaby |title=An appreciation of the Founder's column |work=Yapper's Digest |date=Winter 2010 |page=6}}</ref>

Wexley died on November 9, 2011, at a hospice in Fort Wayne, aged 80. According to his son Russell, his last words were "and another thing", followed by what family members described as "a long and peaceful silence, his first".<ref name="obit2011" /> His funeral at St. Paul's Lutheran Church lasted seven hours; the IAPY's chaplain, Fr. Desmond Achterberg, delivered a eulogy of five hours and twenty minutes, which the association listed as an official Yap-Off exhibition performance.{{Citation needed|date=October 2026}}

== Legacy ==
The IAPY headquarters in Fort Wayne, Wexley House, was named after him in 1971. A bronze statue by the sculptor Ilse Carrow, depicting Wexley mid-gesture with his mouth open, was unveiled outside the building in 2013. The statue's plaque was intended to carry a short quotation, but the board was unable to agree on an excerpt shorter than 400 words; it currently reads "Harold P. Wexley, 1931–2011. Et cetera."<ref name="statue2013">{{Cite news |last=Lindqvist |first=Tomas |title=Founder immortalized in bronze, still talking |work=The Fort Wayne Evening Sentinel-Bugle |date=June 3, 2013 |page=A3}}</ref>

Since 2012 the association has awarded the Wexley Medal for lifetime contribution to yapping. Recipients have included Lorraine Duboisky (2012), Fr. Desmond Achterberg (2015) and Bernadette Szałek (2022).<ref name="annual2025">{{Cite web |title=Annual Report to the Membership, Fiscal Year 2025 |website=IAPY.example.org |publisher=International Association of Professional Yappers |date=March 2026 |access-date=October 12, 2026 |url=https://example.org/iapy/annual-report-2025}}</ref>

Assessments of Wexley outside the association have been mixed. Historian Margery Hollis described him as "a genuinely original figure who identified a constituency that no one else had noticed, chiefly because they were trying not to".<ref name="hollis2014" /> A 2012 review of ''Never Stop'' in the ''Ohio Literary Quarterly'' called it "less a memoir than a weather system".<ref name="olq2012">{{Cite journal |last=Pryce |first=Hamish |title=Rereading Never Stop |journal=Ohio Literary Quarterly |volume=44 |issue=3 |pages=88–93 |year=2012 |doi=10.5555/olq.2012.443}}</ref>

== Works ==
* {{Cite book |last=Wexley |first=Harold P. |title=Never Stop: A Life in Words |publisher=Brannock & Sons |location=Toledo |year=1979 |isbn=978-0-00-201955-4}}
* {{Cite book |last=Wexley |first=Harold P. |title=The Patient Approach: Selling by Staying |publisher=Brannock & Sons |location=Toledo |year=1984 |isbn=978-0-00-201977-6}}
* {{Cite book |last=Wexley |first=Harold P. |title=Collected Columns, 1974–2010 |publisher=International Association of Professional Yappers |location=Fort Wayne |year=2012 |isbn=978-0-00-330041-7}} (posthumous; four volumes)

== See also ==
* [[International Association of Professional Yappers]]
* [[Journal of Applied Redundancy]]
* [[Gerald Fenwick]]

== References ==
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